How to Enter a Room Like You Own It - Without Taking Your Shirt Off

Ah, the magnetic and silent charisma that can command an entire room. What man wouldn't want to have that power?

Not the loud, obnoxious vibe. But the quiet magnetism that makes people feel better they're around you and are just instantly drawn to you.

From attracting a potential mate or business partner or just connecting with friends, a man

able to own any social situation carry with him evolutional benefits.

Here's the good news: it can be learned.

Here are a few tips we've uncovered from hanging out in the world of the web and

in real life socials:

1. Act like you're supposed to be there and walk in with that mindset.

Simply keep in mind that you got invited for a reason. Even if one of your friends did have to pull a fast one on the host, the fact that you're in has is a cosmic event you can only owe to fate. As fate must have it, you are there. Own it.

2. Hold your breath.

No really. Hold it when you walk in.

In the book Win the Crowd, author Steve "magician to the millionaires" Cohen said he does this one trick before walking onto a room: he takes a deep breath, fill his lungs till his chest puffs out, holds it and walks in.

As he greets and talks to people in the room, the air naturally comes out.

The whole process allows you to look more lively and pumped as it lets the blood run to your face making you, well, red and happy.

This also makes you look just a wee bit taller...

3. Stand up straight and actually give the illusion of being taller.

Improve your posture and you never have to worry about feeling small.

Walk in with your back straight, chin up and keep that all socials night long to increase your presence and add inches to yo

ur frame.

4. Get familiar with the place to take control.

l of the room.

Gaining a sense of control out of new places and situations can help you feel more self-assured. One simple trick you can do is to do small things like rearranging things on the table, moving your glass, touching the table napkin. Something that sounds so silly and miniscule can actually signal your brain into tapping the subconscious that all is well and you know what's happening and are therefore in control.

This actually adds an instant magnetism around you. Give it a try at a more familiar setting before going into war.

5. Look people in the eye. But not too long.

You can look at just one eye and then move to their lips or nose just to graze for a bit. And repeat. Looking people in the eye--in moderation--is textbook requirement for creating connection. A stare down,

however, calls for trouble

and will get you labeled a creep.

6. Be interested in people.

If there's one topic any person love, it's this: people love talking about themselves. So really get interested in getting to know the person you're talking too.

People want to feel appreciated and made to feel important. Think of the best conversation you've had? Wasn't it one that involved you talking about you?

So that's 6 steps. Make social hour less of a nightmare by keeping these tips in mind. Remember, nobody ever got things right the first time. Practice makes perfect.